Why Hire a Coach?


Why do I never get the things in life that I want? Why does success elude me? Why does every attempt I make to change my life lead me back to what I had to begin with? What do I really want, anyway? 

When you're asking yourself questions like these and getting no answers, it's time to bring in a coach.

Coaching can address any part of your life in which there is a discrepancy between what you say you want and what you have and consistently get. If you’re confused, uncertain, scared, don’t know what you want, or you're tormented by “should’s” and “ought-to’s,” coaching can serve to sort through the confusion and bring clarity and focus. 

Coaching can help when:

  • You know precisely where you are heading and want some tools and encouragement to pick up the pace or keep you focused. 
  • You are happy where you are and getting curious about what might be next. 
  • You are facing a setback or disappointment and feel unsure about what’s next. 
  • You are experiencing mild and vague disgruntlement and wondering where that’s coming from and what you can do about it. 
  • You are unhappy and tired of trying to fix things on your own.

As a coach, I offer a client-centered approach and effective and useful techniques and tools, including: 

  • structure for getting the results that you want. I provide structure for your work through regular coaching appointments, tasks and steps to work through, deadlines, and benchmarks for success.
  • accountability – I will hold you responsible for doing the work, completing tasks and exercises that you’ve agreed to do, and meeting deadlines that you’ve agreed to. Simply being held accountable for doing what you say you are going to do when you say you are going to do it is a very large component of our successful coaching relationship.
  • challenges that move you out of your comfort zone and give you confidence in your ability and belief in your accomplishments. 

The best coach in the world won’t do you much good if you don’t do the work to create change in yourself and your life. What you get out of coaching is directly proportional to the amount of work you are willing to put in. 

Your commitment and determination, even in the face of resistance and reluctance, are key to make coaching work for you. Indeed, if there weren’t resistance and reluctance in the way, you wouldn’t need a coach. You have to be willing to be uncomfortable.  You also have to tell the truth – about what is going on for you, what you are feeling and thinking, what you have done or not done, and what kind of results you are getting.   And yes, you have to do the homework – the tasks and exercises that I ask you to do, even when you don’t immediately see the reason for it.

Is coaching worth the time and expense?  If you want to make a change in your life AND you need the support of a coach to make that change happen – ask yourself “What is it costing me to have my life stay the way it is?”   What is it costing you in terms of your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health?  What is it costing your loved ones and friends?   Ask yourself if you – a happy, productive, satisfied you – are worth it. 

If the answer is "Yes," contact me to set up a free consultation call today.  

How The Book of How Came to Be

The Book of How is the product of Raven Dana’s 30+ years of experience helping people to create the lives that they desire. I am one of those people.

I first met Raven when she was working with Brad Blanton, and assisting at one of Brad’s Radical Honesty eight-day workshop. When Raven began leading workshops in the DC area in partnership with Clara Griffin of the Griffin Center, I was a regular and enthusiastic participant. When I went through a major life change,  I asked Raven for her help in grasping how I was stopping myself from having what I so deeply desired.  We worked fast – in part because Raven is a skilled coach, and in part because I was primed for change. Within a few months I was able to see clearly how I was getting in my own way, and what I could do to change that. The work we did together was effective, powerful, and truly life-changing.

A few years ago I was between jobs and Raven was tired of hearing people say, “You really ought to write all this down and publish a book.” We began to collaborate on what eventually became The Book of How. Raven wrote, I edited and contributed, together we arranged and rearranged the content, added and deleted material, conspired and collaborated and got mad at each other and got over it and ever so slowly built Raven’s teachings, tools, and techniques into The Book of How.